WATTPAD BRINGS YOU A GUEST POST FROM AISLING FITZSIMONS, AUTHOR OF AISLING’S DIARY:
Hello my lovelies!
First of all, I want to thank all of my Wattpad fans for your amazing comments and support. I hope you’re enjoying my Summer Diary as much as you enjoyed my first diary. Stay tuned for a new chapter and episode every Tuesday and Thursday on Wattpad.
After sharing with you 5 things I wish boyfriends would do, on my second post I’m sharing my advice on how to get over an ex-boyfriend and move on from a breakup. This is the advice I usually give to my friends and I’d like for you to share your tips as well in the comments, boys included.
1. Do not force yourself to stop thinking about him
It will drive you crazy if you do. How can you simply order your mind not to think about what used to be one of the most important people in your life?
Despite the common advice, I think it’s important to think about what went wrong… Do not beat yourself to death about it but try to exorcise all the demons. Cry, yell, do whatever you want, but don’t try to repress all your feelings and memories.
Think about the good things and the bad things, the sweet and the bitter. This is really important. What usually happens when you force yourself to stop thinking about your ex is that even if you eventually manage to do it, the moment you see him or run into anything remotely related to him, all those feelings of love, anger, or even jealousy, rise up again. I don’t think that’s healthy.
2. Spend quality time with your friends and family
You know I had a tough time with Siobhan and Ali when I started going out with Murphy. I’m not proud of it, but I have to admit I kind of neglected them, putting them on the background of my life. I’m spending a lot of time with them now and I’m loving it. Same goes to my parents, kid brother and Granny Nora. Cherish your friends and family. They will always be there for you.
3. Take on a new activity
Ever wanted to do something but you could never find the time for it? Now you have the time and the opportunity. Take on a new class, learn a craft, do some sports, discover new stories on Wattpad, have fun!
4. Meet new people
It’s always nice to make new friends, isn’t it? This advice is especially helpful if you have a lot of common friends with your ex. Friends tend to take sides when a couple in the group breaks up and the last thing you need is to argue with an old friend because of something that doesn’t even concern him. You won’t have that problem when meeting new people, that’s for sure.
5. Start dating only when you’re ready
After a breakup it’s OK to spend some time alone and if you’re anything like me, it is almost imperative that you do. You need to figure out who you are when you’re not in a relationship.
Everyone has different timings when it comes to start dating again, so there’s not a rule for it. Just do whatever your heart tells you to do!
I want to know your advice to get over a breakup! Join me on my beChilled TV facebook and twitter @bechilledtv so we can discuss this together.
Love, Ais